We saw the gender reveal as an opportunity to celebrate with our friends and family that we were having a baby. Of course I had every intention of having a baby shower, but this was something we wanted to do with Luke's friends too. It was summer and such good weather so what better excuse to have a big BBQ and invite everyone we loved.
I got the idea from Pinterest/Instagram and became a bit obsessed with finding different gender reveals. There was the classic blue/pink sponge inside a cake, blue/pink balloons flying into the sky, a black balloon with blue/pink confetti inside the balloon, the list goes on. I wanted something that wouldn't happen in a split second as it would be likely no one would have pressed their cameras in time and we wouldn't get any photos of the reveal. Plus, we didn't want anything messy as we have dogs and the BBQ was on the decking - so we went with a box of balloons that when you ripped open the top it was pink or blue balloons!
My favourite bit of the day was getting everyone to vote whether they thought it was a girl or a boy by stamping their thumb with pink or blue ink and making their bet on a template I had printed of a tree, hence the thumb prints looked like leaves. It worked out really well aesthetically as half voted pink and half voted blue. It was so funny how some people were so sure what they thought it was going to be, some were asking about our family history so that they could guess. It's framed and hanging in Oscars nursery and I love it. We had roughly 30-40 people round to vote so really special for everyone to feel involved and a bit of fun too
Ever since I've been old enough to daydream about having kids I had always seen myself to have a girl. I wanted to buy everything pink and get the baby headbands. I did a bit of online shopping beforehand in a sale and bought both girl and boy bits before we knew and although I did like the shirts and the lumberjack looking gilet I got, I definitely swayed more to the pink frilly bits with bows. When people asked if I wanted a girl or a boy, I would reply, I don't mind in terms of them growing up and as a person how they will be but as a matter of the baby clothes I'm drawn to, I want a girl.
Everyone had their cameras out filming and it was so nice to bring everyone together to watch the blue balloons come out of the box and Luke and I got some photos with the balloons that are framed and now hang in Oscar's nursery too.
Finding out it was a boy I didn't really have a good or bad reaction it was just a shock. I saw a couple of articles pop up while looking for baby info on 'gender disappointment' and I didn't even click to read because I knew my reaction and feelings towards a boy definitely weren't disappointment, it was just that for so long everything I had pictured had been pink and bows and the only girls named I had thought of were girls. It took some adjusting to as I had to imagine a whole new world but now I can't even see myself with a girl and love having a boy so, so much. I think while pregnant and baby shopping, I was obsessed with outfits, but once your baby is here it's so much more about the baby and their personality and them smiling and what they do and how much you love them.
I think now while shopping boys have so much more colour choice that is trendy, he has so many white, navy, grey outfits instead of just the typical 'baby blue'. With girls its more baby pink and yellow which can get a bit sickly. I remember hating the colour baby blue when I was pregnant and thought everything looked naf in baby blue but now I am obsessed with it and it really brings out his blue eyes and he looks so cute in it. Funny how things change.
We really struggled to agree on baby names that we both liked that were for a boy. Luke liked strong, bold, heroic names that were Gods or Vikings whereas I wanted something cute like Charlie or Alfie. We didn't decide on Oscar until the day he was born.
I always thought I would want a boy and then a girl, but my desire to have a girl has still subsided. The more I think about it the more I would love two little boys (as we are definitely trying for another baby when the time is right). I do always say to Oscar 'When you're a teenager you better still talk to me and always love your Mummy!. I think that's the one thing I would like to have a girl for, that when she becomes older you have a best friend and you can go shopping and do girly things together and have that bond, but boys become quite distant from their Mums, so I hope we always stay really close. Best friends forever, right Oscar?