An Open Letter for Mums and Mums-to-be

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A few words of reassurance from a first time Mum.

To someone I was just six months ago: pregnant and full of anticipation. Or to the First Time, second time or third time Mum, I'm right there with you.

To the Mum reading this that's worried about getting her body back. To the Mum that's reading this that doesn't have the money to buy the luxuries for their baby they wish they could. To the Mum that's reading this that is worried they won't have a life after having a baby.

Do not worry for a second, it will be amazing. YOU will be amazing! For all your worries and concerns, don't let them consume you. It's a rollercoaster ride but an amazing, thrilling, exhilarating one at that.

There will be times where you are feeling stressed, tired, overwhelmed, guilty. There will be times when you feel low for no reason and times when you've read so much conflicting advice online you don't know what to do. There will be times when you feel helpless, times when you feel exhausted and would do anything to just SLEEP! But believe me when I say, there isn't anything you won't sacrifice for the tiny human you brought into this world. They are above and beyond, worth it.

For every time you have to peel your eyes open at 4, 5, and 6AM I promise you that little face makes it worth it. For every time you pee a little when you laugh because your body carried a human inside and things aren't like they used to be, I promise you, when they grab your finger with their tiny hands, it's worth it. For every single stupid argument you have with your partner because you're both so tired, when you snuggle as a family in the mornings, it's all worth it.

Whether you started as a size 8 and you're now a 14, I promise you, your baby loves you. Whether they're in a limited edition Silver Cross pram with a fur lining or a Gumtree second hand scuffed round the edges pram, I promise you, your baby loves you. Whether you had time to shower this morning or wipe off yesterday's smudged mascara or not, I promise you, your baby loves you.

Whether you breastfeed or bottle feed, your baby will grow, learn, strive and succeed regardless. Whether your baby sleeps through the night or doesn't sleep a wink, your baby will laugh, play and adore you. Whether you co-sleep, bed-share or they sleep in their own room, your baby will feel loved and nurtured. Whether your baby is chubby, fat, tall, thin, small for his age he is your baby and he is perfection. If he's not crawling yet for his age, not smiling yet for his age- his time will come when he is ready and it will be so worth the wait.

If you go back to work straight away, if you're a full time Mum, or just do what you can on the side, you're doing the best you can do your baby. Whether you can't let them go and can't stand the thought of being apart, you're doing what's best for you and your baby, whether you have date night once a week and Grandparents babysitting you're doing what's best for you and your baby. Whether you go to a baby club every day, you're doing an amazing job, or whether you stay in all day just you and your baby and laugh and play, you're doing an amazing job.

To the Mum that's overdue, it's worth it. To the Mum that's scared to death in the premature unit, it's worth it. To the Mum that's scared of surgery, it's worth it. To the Mum that can't stand needles, it's worth it.

To the Mum that's never felt true love, you wait. To the Mum that's always put themselves first, you wait. To the Mum that's always, always wanted a baby, you wait. To the Mum that never thought she'd have a baby so soon, you wait.

You wait til your baby first opens their eyes. You wait til your baby really sees you for the first time. You wait til your baby smiles and laughs. You wait til nothing in your entire life compares to this tiny, innocent bundle of perfection consumes your entire life in the best and most chaotic way.

Never fear you will not be enough for your baby because YOU ARE. Never fear your body wasn't what it once was because IT MADE A LIFE. Never fear it won't be worth it because IT IS.

Enjoy the early days because they go so fast. Hold your baby, rock them to sleep despite every book telling you not to. Hug them tight, let them sleep on you, spend your days doing exciting things and making memories, meeting other Mum's and talking about nappies like you promised yourself you wouldn't!!

Good luck for every aspect of his journey you are about to take. If you ever feel lost just know your baby doesn't know your flaws, your baby doesn't know your fears. Your baby sees their Mum. Their amazing, selfless, cuddly Mum and to them, you are perfect.